Updated: Jun 3, 2019
The level of self esteem you have is a reflection of how much you like and accept yourself. It's difficult for other people to feel confident in you if you don't feel confident in yourself. If you grew up with very little praise in a critical environment, it is easy to question and doubt yourself and base your opinion of yourself on other people's views. However, it is so important to live by and follow your own inner moral compass regardless of what other people think or say. You were born perfect and never had to question yourself so why start now?
To tune in with your own inner guidance about your purpose in your life, surround yourself with supportive people. If you continue to spend time with people who are critical of you, it's hard to separate yourself from this criticism. Because of these challenges, healthy boundaries and assertiveness are essential to building your confidence and self esteem. It is not for others to show you who you are, but for you to show them who you are by believing in yourself, standing up for yourself and holding others to the same standard that you hold for yourself.
If you hold a high standard for yourself in terms of how others treat you, you will be able to help others and have something to contribute to others, and to the world. If you fully accept yourself with all of your flaws and imperfections, you can live your passion and let go of any fear that comes up. You won't need to have an inner critic and you won't need to compare yourself with anyone. You will realize that you are unique and only you can be the best you—not anyone else.
Healthy self esteem is about taking time out every day to love yourself, to feel good about yourself, and to acknowledge your unique strengths and the qualities that make you special. Take time to cultivate the present moment and live it fully with all of the self worth you deserve. Take time to understand your value as a human being who with unconditional self love knows how to contribute to others.
When you understand your own self worth you are able to take full responsibility for your life choices and decisions knowing that you made your decisions out of true service to others. When you love and accept yourself, there is little room for judging and criticizing others, but there is discernment. There is an understanding that the people you surround yourself with give you the same value you give to yourself. If they don't, that only says something about them and their own insecurities. When people are judgmental or critical of others, it is usually because they don't like themselves very much.
When you let go of negative thinking about yourself and others, you are free to stop sabotaging yourself. People with low self esteem always feel that nothing is good enough, including themselves. They keep a self fulfilling prophecy going by making sure that every relationship or job is not good enough and it becomes evidence for these deep seated beliefs of lack and negativity. Would you speak to a friend or someone you cared about the way you speak to yourself? Once you recognize that you have the power and potential to love and accept yourself in the present moment as it is, and that you are free to make mistakes and to learn from them, there is a recognition that your life has purpose and your passion is meant to be lived fully.
If you struggle with self esteem and confidence issues and don't know where to start to turn the cycle around, therapy may be the the best next step. I am passionate about helping people find their inner strength and learn to love themselves once again. If you would like to learn more, feel free to call me at 780-218-1644. Or, if you are ready to book an appointment and start the process, click on the button below.